Soul Ties Uncovered: Signs and How to Break Free God’s Way
Introduction
Have you ever questioned whether you’re still spiritually connected to someone? Soul ties are often overlooked, yet they can deeply influence our lives—sometimes without us even realizing it. In this article, we’ll explore five revealing signs that you might still have a soul tie with someone. Stick with me until the end—you might discover more than you expected.
Let’s dive right in—but before we explore the signs of a soul tie, it’s important to understand what a soul tie actually is. A soul tie refers to a spiritual connection between two or more people. While the term “soul tie” itself isn’t found in Scripture, the concept is clearly illustrated in various biblical passages.
There are two types of soul ties: healthy and unhealthy. A healthy soul tie forms in godly relationships—like those between close friends or between parents and children. One powerful example can be found in 1 Samuel 18:1, which describes the deep bond between David and Jonathan.
On the other hand, an unhealthy or demonic soul tie is a harmful spiritual attachment created by the enemy. This kind of bond can keep someone emotionally or spiritually bound in a way that hinders growth and freedom. For instance, a parent who becomes overly attached and doesn’t want their children to marry, or an ex who refuses to let go and constantly reappears in your life. Link
5 Clear Signs You’re Still Spiritually Connected to Someone
Alright, here are five key signs that could reveal a soul tie in your life.
Sign #1: You experience recurring dreams involving someone from your past
One of the clearest signs of an existing soul tie is when you consistently dream about an ex-partner, even long after the relationship has ended. While it’s normal to occasionally dream of people from your past, persistent and recurring dreams—especially when significant time has passed—can be a red flag. This is particularly concerning if you’re already married, as it may signal that a spiritual connection with your ex still remains.
In some cases, these dreams may even involve moments of intimacy, leaving you feeling emotionally unsettled or drained when you wake up. From a spiritual perspective, such dreams suggest that the soul tie between you and that person hasn’t been fully broken. It’s a sign that healing and spiritual release may still be needed.
Breaking this kind of soul tie requires intentional spiritual renunciation and prayer. The common misconception is that soul ties are only formed through sexual intimacy. While sex does create some of the strongest soul ties, many people unknowingly forge them through their words.
In relationships, it’s common to make emotional vows or declarations—statements like, “I’ll never leave you,” or, “If you ever leave me, I’ll never love anyone else.” These words may seem harmless in the moment, but they carry weight in the spiritual realm. They form binding agreements.
Even after a relationship ends physically, the covenants created by those words can still remain active in the spirit. So, while you may be separated outwardly, those spoken promises can keep the soul tie alive unless they are specifically renounced through prayer and spiritual authority.
The Bible reminds us in 2 Corinthians 13:1, “By the mouth of two or three witnesses every word shall be established.” This highlights just how powerful words truly are. When you and another person exchange heartfelt promises or emotional declarations, you both serve as witnesses to those words—and the spiritual realm takes notice.
Even after a relationship ends, those spoken words can give the enemy legal grounds to continue causing emotional or spiritual torment. Demonic forces exploit these unbroken agreements, keeping you bound by promises you may have forgotten but never renounced.
That’s why it’s so important to be cautious about making emotional vows—especially with someone you’re not married to. Words carry weight, and in the spirit realm, they can create lasting consequences.
Proverbs 6:1–2 says, “My son, if you have become surety for your friend, if you have shaken hands in pledge for a stranger, you are snared by the words of your mouth; you are taken by the words of your mouth.” This passage highlights the power and consequences of our spoken words. When you make emotional or binding guarantees, you can actually trap yourself spiritually. Your own words become a snare, creating agreements that can hold you captive until they are broken. Read more
Sign #2: The Mirror Effect
Another concerning sign of unhealthy soul ties is what’s known as the “mirror effect.” This occurs when events or experiences in another person’s life somehow begin to affect you, even though there’s no physical interaction between you two. For instance, you might notice that when your ex-partner falls ill, you start feeling the same symptoms. Or, if they’re involved in a car accident, you may experience a close call yourself around the same time. These mirrored experiences are not mere coincidences; they’re evidence of a spiritual connection that has formed between you and the other person.
This type of soul tie is particularly dangerous because it opens the door for spiritual oppression. Demonic forces often reinforce these connections, using them to create simultaneous hardship and confusion in both individuals’ lives. The enemy knows that by keeping these ties intact, he can multiply the suffering and confusion. When unhealthy soul ties persist, they often bring negative spiritual consequences that manifest in the physical realm.
Breaking free from this type of soul tie requires intentional prayer, invoking the power of the blood of Jesus, and declaring a complete severing of all unholy connections. As Colossians 2:15 reminds us, “And having spoiled principalities and powers, he made a show of them openly, triumphing over them in it.” Through Christ’s victory, these supernatural links can be permanently severed.
Sign #3: Obsessive Thoughts That Feel Out of Your Control
Another strong indicator of a soul tie is obsessive thinking—both you and the other person may find yourselves fixated on each other, even long after the relationship has ended. While it’s normal to occasionally remember someone who once held a special place in your life, a soul tie is often marked by intrusive, persistent thoughts that feel beyond your control.
For example, you may feel an overwhelming urge to contact them, replay old conversations in your mind, or imagine new scenarios with them. You might find yourself constantly checking their social media—and if you see them with someone else, it deeply wounds you, souring your mood instantly. That sudden wave of anger, jealousy, or bitterness is often the soul tie at work, keeping you emotionally entangled.
In a natural breakup, emotional closure eventually comes. But when months or even years have passed and the emotional pull remains just as strong—or even grows—it’s a sign that something spiritual may be at play. This isn’t just missing someone; it’s a deeper spiritual obsession that drains your mental and emotional energy. Many people describe it as if the other person is living “rent-free” in their mind, no matter how hard they try to move on.
When this happens, it’s a clear call to prayer and spiritual intervention to break the unhealthy bond and reclaim your peace.
Take, for example, a woman who has physically left an abusive relationship but still feels an unexplainable emotional pull toward her former abuser. Or a man who, even after years of separation, remains emotionally tied to a past romantic partner. These aren’t just psychological issues—they are spiritual bonds that require spiritual solutions.
In some cases, these soul ties can lead to destructive behaviors, such as stalking or an inability to form healthy new relationships. You may even find yourself making life decisions based on what your ex might think—long after they’re no longer part of your life.
In more extreme cases, demonic influence can drive your ex to become obsessively jealous, threatening anyone new in your life. This happens because their soul remains spiritually connected to yours, and unclean spirits manipulate their thoughts and emotions. The spirit of obsession often works hand-in-hand with the spirit of jealousy, creating a toxic and sometimes dangerous fixation.
Scripture acknowledges this dynamic. Numbers 5:14 refers specifically to “the spirit of jealousy,” showing that jealousy can be more than just an emotion—it can be a spiritual force. Genesis 34:3 offers a clear example, where Shechem’s soul “clave unto Dinah,” demonstrating how unhealthy soul ties can manifest as obsessive love.
Jesus also taught in Matthew 6:21, “For where your treasure is, there will your heart be also.” If your thoughts constantly return to someone God has called you to leave behind, it’s a strong indication that your heart—and your soul—may still be tied to them. This is more than emotional memory; it’s a spiritual entanglement that needs to be broken through prayer, deliverance, and the truth of God’s Word.
The Apostle Paul offers clear guidance for overcoming these thought patterns. In 2 Corinthians 10:5, he writes, “Casting down imaginations, and every high thing that exalteth itself against the knowledge of God, and bringing into captivity every thought to the obedience of Christ.” This verse reminds us that breaking soul ties—especially the mental and emotional ones—requires intentional spiritual warfare.
It’s not just about forgetting someone; it’s about recognizing that these recurring thoughts are part of a spiritual battleground. To be free, we must actively reject and take authority over them, bringing every thought into alignment with Christ. This is how we dismantle the strongholds that soul ties can build in our minds. see
Sign #4: Taking On Their Traits and Behaviors
One of the more unsettling signs of a soul tie is when you begin to take on the traits, habits, or behaviors of the other person—especially those you once disliked or that feel unnatural to your own personality. For instance, even long after the relationship has ended, you may catch yourself using their phrases, mimicking their mannerisms, or adopting their interests and personality quirks that were uniquely theirs. This unconscious mirroring points to a lingering soul connection that’s influencing you in ways you may not even realize.
In more serious cases, you may begin to struggle with addictions or emotional battles that only surfaced after your connection with a particular person—as if their spiritual issues were transferred to you through the soul tie. This isn’t just imitation or learned behavior; it’s spiritual transference. When two souls become intertwined, there can be an actual impartation of spiritual influence.
Just as godly soul ties can impart peace, wisdom, and strength, ungodly ones can transfer bondage, confusion, and sin. Proverbs 13:20 warns, “He that walketh with wise men shall be wise: but a companion of fools shall be destroyed.” This principle applies both ways—relationships influence us, for better or worse. And unfortunately, these effects don’t simply vanish once the relationship ends. If the soul tie remains, so can the spiritual consequences.
Breaking free from this dimension of a soul tie requires more than just distance—it calls for intentional renunciation of every negative trait or habit you may have picked up. As Paul instructs in Ephesians 4:22–24: “Put off… the old man, which is corrupt according to the deceitful lusts… be renewed in the spirit of your mind; and… put on the new man, which after God is created in righteousness and true holiness.” Replacing what was transferred with godly truth is essential for lasting freedom.
Today, the world has developed subtle yet powerful strategies to bind people’s souls—especially through media and celebrity influence. Unlike traditional soul ties that may form through physical or emotional connection, this kind doesn’t require any personal interaction. All it takes is access to a screen—whether through TV, radio, or a smartphone connected to social media.
A common example is the influence of secular music and movies that glorify a corrupt and immoral lifestyle. These forms of entertainment often promote nudity, profanity, violence, and rebellious behavior, glamorizing a culture filled with vulgar language, hypersexuality, and aggression. They normalize styles like sagging jeans, oversized clothing, and excessive tattoos—symbols that reflect deeper spiritual and cultural trends.
Through constant exposure, these influences can subtly shape one’s identity, values, and desires—forming soul ties that are spiritual in nature, even without direct contact. Link
Sign #5: Difficulty Forming Healthy New Connections
The fifth sign of an unhealthy soul tie is the inability to form healthy new relationships, even when you genuinely desire to move on. Unlike the natural grieving or healing process—which allows the heart to slowly open to new connections—soul ties create an invisible spiritual barrier that blocks progress. You may notice that every promising relationship seems to fall apart without clear explanation, or you might feel inexplicable guilt, as if being unfaithful to someone who’s no longer part of your life.
Some describe it as an unseen wall that prevents emotional intimacy, while others experience it as a strange heaviness or dread when trying to form new bonds. In more intense cases, you may even face supernatural interference—sudden arguments, miscommunications, or a recurring sense that something is ‘off’ whenever you try to move forward. These aren’t just psychological hurdles; they are spiritual blockades rooted in unbroken soul ties.
The wisdom of Solomon in Song of Solomon 2:7 gives insight into this mystery: “I charge you, O ye daughters of Jerusalem… that ye stir not up, nor awake my love, till he please.” This verse highlights the importance of divine timing and spiritual readiness for love. When your soul is still entangled with someone from the past, you’re not fully available to embrace what God may want to bring into your future.
As Jesus said in Matthew 6:24, “No man can serve two masters.” In the same way, no heart can be fully devoted to someone new when it’s still spiritually tied to someone old. Breaking this kind of soul tie requires both renouncing past connections and inviting God to restore your heart’s capacity for love and attachment. Isaiah 43:18–19 offers hope: “Forget the former things; do not dwell on the past. See, I am doing a new thing… I will make a way in the wilderness and rivers in the desert.” link
If you’ve identified any of these five signs in your life, take heart—there is hope. Through Christ, complete freedom is not only possible, it’s already been made available. Breaking soul ties isn’t merely a matter of psychology; it’s a spiritual battle that must be addressed with biblical weapons and divine authority.
First, recognize the existence of the soul tie before God. Then, bring these connections into the light by confessing them honestly before Him.
Second, repent of any sin linked to the soul tie, whether it involves sexual immorality, idolatry, or allowing unhealthy control in your life.
Third, verbally renounce the soul tie through prayer. This is not just a ritual, but a spiritual declaration that aligns with Romans 10:10: “For with the heart man believeth unto righteousness; and with the mouth confession is made unto salvation.”
Fourth, apply the blood of Jesus to your soul for cleansing and restoration. Hebrews 9:14 reminds us, “How much more shall the blood of Christ, who through the eternal Spirit offered himself without spot to God, purge your conscience from dead works to serve the living God?”
Fifth, fill the void with a deeper connection to Christ. Nature abhors a vacuum, and simply breaking soul ties is not enough. The empty spaces in your soul must be filled with the presence of Christ. As Colossians 2:9-10 promises, “For in Him dwelleth all the fullness of the Godhead bodily. And ye are complete in Him, which is the head of all principality and power.”
Lastly, maintain your freedom through consistent spiritual disciplines. James 4:7 instructs, “Submit yourselves therefore to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you.” Once soul ties are broken, expect a process of restoration and healing. Ezekiel 36:26 beautifully describes this restoration: “A new heart also will I give you, and a new spirit will I put within you: and I will take away the stony heart out of your flesh, and I will give you a heart of flesh.”
As your soul heals, you will begin to notice those five signs gradually fading away. Dreams about the person will diminish. The spiritual transfer of experiences will cease. Obsessive thoughts will lose their power. The traits you’ve unknowingly adopted will weaken as your true identity in Christ emerges, and the barriers preventing you from forming healthy new relationships will be removed.
Conclusion
In conclusion, breaking free from soul ties is not just a one-time decision but a continuous journey of healing, renewal, and spiritual freedom. As you recognize and renounce these unhealthy connections, remember that Christ has already secured your victory. His blood cleanses, His Spirit restores, and His Word empowers. Don’t allow past soul ties to dictate your present or future—embrace the freedom and new life He offers. Stand firm in the truth that you are complete in Christ, and trust that He will guide you into relationships that reflect His love and purpose for your life. Walk in the freedom you’ve been given, and let His presence be your constant source of strength and peace.
Concluding Prayer.
Heavenly Father,
I come before You in the name of Jesus, acknowledging Your power and authority over my life. I recognize the soul ties that have formed in my past, whether knowingly or unknowingly, and I ask for Your forgiveness for any sin associated with these connections.
I repent of any idolatry, sexual immorality, or unhealthy attachments that have kept me bound. Lord, I ask You to cleanse my heart and soul with the precious blood of Jesus Christ, purging all traces of these soul ties and restoring me to wholeness.
I now verbally renounce every soul tie and declare its hold over my life broken, in Jesus’ name. I surrender every part of my being to You, and I declare my complete freedom through the power of the cross.
Father, I invite Your Holy Spirit to fill the empty places in my heart, and I ask for a deeper connection to Christ. May Your presence be the foundation of my identity and my source of strength. Heal the wounds of my past and help me to walk in the fullness of Your love.
Finally, I commit to maintaining my freedom through prayer, worship, and Your Word. I resist the enemy’s lies and temptations, and I submit myself to You. I trust in Your promise to renew my heart and mind, transforming me into the person You’ve called me to be.
Thank You for Your grace, Your restoration, and the freedom I now walk in. In Jesus’ name, Amen.